The women who are sugar mommas are generally in their late 30’s or early 40’s and tend to be rich or wealthy in their own right. They literally “buy” their sugar babies with sweet words, charm, and shower them with all the money in the world. But there are some basic rules to a successful relationship between a sugar momma and her sugar baby as there are to any other relationship. Here’s the inside guide on how to be a sugar momma:
Firstly, in the relationship, they have to assert your position and in this case it is the dominant one. The sugar momma is picking up the tab after all, so the sugar baby should be pretty clear about his position. The sugar momma should clearly state the rules of the game and make sure her baby sticks to them. Some of these relationships can be of a romantic nature but in most cases it is sexual. Remember all those positions you thought of with your husband? Well, he didn’t do it and that’s why your sugar baby’s here. On the other hand, young men lust for older women who are much more experienced than them in bed and who could teach them a trick or two. So it turns out to be a mutually beneficial relationship for the couple.
The sugar momma should realise that her sugar baby also has a life of his own; he should not be fettered all the time to her. He also needs some time to unwind, and it’s perfectly ok if he hangs out with his buddies once in a while, proves he’s normal right? Apart from that, the sugar momma should realise that while she might have reached a plateau in her professional life, it’s just the start of the road for her young man.If she really has feelings about him then she’ll make sure that his career is not endangered because of her presence in his life.
A sugar momma should not be looking for a staid partner, in her heart she desires to go out and have as much fun as she can and this is achievable with fun loving cubs. They like to go out, drink, party and generally have a jolly good time while they are about it. So choose your man wisely. Life is all about living it up and it also helps if he fits into your kind of social circle.
Look and smell your best always. Remember that the relationship is a mutual one and if you don’t make yourself feel wanted, the cub will skulk for a while before stalking off for other game. It sounds a bit cruel, but it is a competitive world and it’s not just in business, it is applicable to society as well and females in particular. There’s plenty of competition out there and it is best to be prepared always.
Get ready to be flaunted; your cub will long to show you off to his friends as his latest catch. Don’t be surprised, this is the way it works, nothing is permanent in this world and you should appreciate the fact that he likes you to the extent of flaunting you. But make sure that he understands that you hold the reins in the relationship.
Do not spend too lavishly on him or you might end up high and dry. There have been far too many sugar mommas falling for sweet talking youngsters and it’s the oldest trick in the book. Allow your sugar baby a monthly allowance and the occasional treat but don’t go overboard because he will see it as your weakness and exploit it to his advantage.
Be open to different opinions when you are with a younger man. Sugar mommas often complain that they cannot understand their cubs. Take some time out to see what they have to say and if it’s a particular situation where you have a polar opinion, beg to disagree. You have every right to as you have seen more of the world than he has.
Try and be honest, particularly on the first date, as it will set the ball rolling in the right direction. If you put up a fake front then sooner or later your guard will slip and you’ll be sending out the wrong signals. It’s much better to have a realistic expectation and see if your date lives up to it.
Always come across as a confident and world-wise woman. After all, that’s what he’s been looking for. Spice things up between the sheets and keep experimenting while having sex. This not only will reinvigorate you but keep your sugar baby eating out of the palm of your hand. Sexual expectations are very high when it comes to cougar dating and sugar mommas should keep that in mind.